Today is the Blogblast for Peace, where bloggers from around the world write about topics pertaining to peace.
When I heard the Dalai Lama speak in Birmingham recently, he said something I found particularly profound, and chose to hold back for this post. He said, and I’m paraphrasing:
There are 7 billion of us humans on this earth, and each one of us wants peace in our lives. None of us want problems. And yet, every one of us does things to invite struggle and strife into our lives.
It reminded me of this passage from the AA Big Book:
“Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making.” ― Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous – Big Book
It’s not something I like to think about when I ponder the way to a peaceful heart. I want to wear the peaceful glow, along with the peacenik clothes, and admonish others that all would be well if only they would change.
But the truth is, the only way I’ll ever find peace within is for ME to change.
The older I get, and the longer I walk this path, the more I realize that many of my troubles have indeed been of my own making.
Have others wronged me? Certainly. Have I suffered as a result? You betcha.
But the things that trouble my heart today have little to do with past injustices.
For me, what I must do to maintain a peaceful heart is love others- and myself. Forgive them- and me. Give up the judicial robes. No path to peace allows me to judge anyone, including myself.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? But it certainly isn’t easy.