Friday morning in downtown Nashville, a woman got off the bus, walked in front of the bus to cross the street, and was hit by that same bus and drug “a short distance.” That short distance was a city block. According to the police and news media, the woman’s actions are to blame for the accident because she sought to cross the street when the Don’t Walk sign was lit.
So how did the driver of the bus she just exited not see her right in front of that bus?
I guess because she’s invisible.
I am too. It’s what keeps clerks from seeing me in stores. It stops others from looking at me as I walk downtown. It’s the reason why women my age are not seen.
But how could a woman who just got off a bus not be noticed by the driver of said bus?
Well, invisibility is rather expected.
Like when I stopped in PetSmart yesterday and the smart-ass clerk that rang me up gave me the passive-aggressive treatment when I didn’t say thank you. You acted like a turd, and you think I’m supposed to say thank you for putting up with your attitude? Well of course I should, because that’s what invisible people do.
Or the many times I’ve been in the check-out line at a store and watched the store clerk be very friendly to the person in front of me and then hardly say a word to me.
And then there’s the time when my mom and I ate at Ruby Tuesday we waited over an hour for two veggie plates. The server just kinda forgot we were there. When mom asked where our food was, the manager was all apologetic and comped the meals. She also offered a free meal our next trip, but who wants to go back to someplace where you are ignored the first time?
I guess by now some of you are tuning me out. Geez, why does she have turn everything into a rant about gender bias? Why can’t she just go back to talking about dogs?
Why can’t she just be invisible?
Yesterday on my way to the car I walked behind two young women. They were just what society tells us women should be: young, pretty, stylishly dressed, and each had a thigh gap. I wanted to tell them to enjoy all that attention while they can, because one day they, too, will have that heavy cloak of invisibility thrust upon them. .
But they didn’t notice me because I was invisible.
(The woman hit by the bus is a 60+ year old state employee. She will live, but her arm was badly injured and may be amputated. Please keep her in your thoughts.)